We all know the power of words in marketing. Those words that make you get out your credit card for something you didn’t need an hour earlier.
Then there are these stories from people, sometimes teens, that due to harsh remarks got shortcut in their career and never lived up to their full potential. Power words like “you will never be a dentist” or “you can’t sing.”
And then there are the power words of Almighty God. He created the universe by His mere words. Read the book of Genesis. Or Jesus saying: “Your sins are forgiven!”(Luke 7:48), “Lazarus, come forth!” (John 11:43), or “Today you will be with me in paradise” (Luke 23:43).All other power words cannot compete with these words.
My focus in this article, however, will be neither about these categories of power words, but about the words we speak to ourselves and the power they have. This makes sense for three reasons:
Firstly, the amount of thoughts we process and words we speak to ourselves is huge. On average, it is estimated to be between 40,000 to 60,000 per day. Even going with the conservative number, this is huge.
Secondly, self-love and care needs to come before the love for others. You cannot really love someone else if you have no love for yourself. This is commanded in the Bible “Though shalt love thy neighbor as thyself” (Matthew 22:39). It’s also mirrored in the airplane safety protocol: First put the safety gear on yourself, then help others.
Thirdly, when we develop consciousness and mindfulness of our self-talk, it will eventually spill over in our conversations and actions to others.
So much is clear, words have huge power. Either to the good or to the bad. We all have experienced both versions. Words we speak ourselves into anxiety, guilt, low self-esteem. And then words to encourage ourselves, like “I can do all things in Christ”, “I can do this!” …
The Effects of Repeated Words to Ourselves
1. Words have an energy frequency. Positive words have a different energy frequency than negative words. For example, love and hate or abundance and debt have a different energy frequency. They make you feel differently.
2.The more words of a kind you speak, the more you will broadcast that energy. Oftentimes this happens on a subconscious level. We engage in negative talk with ourselves for a period of time and suddenly we wonder why so many negative things come our way, or why it is so hard to come out of this negative state of mind.
3. Words have a direct effect on our cells and DNA. Studies from Dr. Masaru Emoto from Japan on waterhas shown how cell structures of water molecules will change when exposed to different kinds of music. These water molecules also showed very different structures after they had overnight a paper taped to the container with each different words, as you can see in the image below.
This is eye-opening, fascinating and scary at the same time. It’s probably the reason why the Bible puts such an emphasis on using positive words! It literally has life and death implications. “The tongue has the power of life and death” (Proverbs 18:21).
4. Words have an impact physically on your body, and emotionally. While there are lots of stories from people who experienced negative remarks from others and couldn’t really move on anymore, the same is true for the effect of our internal talk. It is this self-sabotaging talk that holds us back. Words like “I am not good enough”, or “I can’t do this!”.
5. Words are a mirror of our heart. The Bible says in Matthew 12:34: “Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks”.
That’s why the emphasis in the Bible is to
– look / engage only in beautiful, up-lifting, noble things
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things “ (Philippians 4:8-9)
– pray continuously and stay close to God
“…pray without ceasing” (1. Thessalonians 5:17)
6. Words are a mirror of our state of self-discipline. In Proverbs 25:28 we read: “People who cannot control themselves are like cities without walls to protect them.” This is true for our use of words as well, the kinds of words we choose, the tone, the timing, and even the kinds of conversations we engage in, or not.
So, what can we do to strengthen our use of positive words? Here are some tips to get better at it
* Read the Bible daily, especially Psalms and Proverbs. Stay close to God and His strength.
* Let go daily of negative tensions and emotions by journaling.
* Commit to speaking only positive words to yourself for 66 days. That’s how long it takes to change a habit. Whenever you realize a negative thought comes up, stop it in the tracks and recite a Bible verse to counter it, or speak out three opposite statements.
* In your daily journaling include I am statements. These are very powerful and can help to shift your thinking. As Christians, it’s important to glorify God through it all. It’s not (all) about us, it is more what God does in us and through us.
I am saved.
I am forgiven.
I am the temple of the Holy Spirit.
I am part of God’s family.
I have a home in Heaven.
I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me.
I can jump over a fence with God.
I am an ambassador of Christ.
I am washed white as snow.
I am uniquely crafted.
I am a woman / a man of God.
I am known by God before I was conceived.
I have a God-given purpose.
Then add I Am statements about your personal gifts and skills. Like:
I am dedicated
I am beautiful
I am a go-getter
Words are utterly important. Especially those, that we speak to ourselves. Self-talk can make or break us due to the continuous drop feeding. To get aware of our words to ourselves is the first step. The best and big step is to change them to positive words. This will take on average 66 days and real effort. But it will be worth it. Are you ready for it?